Dating Tips For Men: What is Real Beauty?

Want dating tips for men about how to attract all types of women?

Consider a woman who is beautiful not by society’s definition, but by your own.

Perhaps other guys think that she’s hot.  But she doesn’t have to be the hottest one of the group.

In fact, the very flaws the keep her from being “regulation hot” are the very things that you find attractive in her.  An awkward smile, an off-beat style.  Maybe she hides her pretty face behind a pair of thick glasses so that you only see her beauty when you are intimate.

Women who are uniquely beautiful often to put a lot of thought into who they are, and try to make their external appearance match their inner selves.

Or maybe they put no thought at all, and they’re just beautiful.  Their personality and warmth radiate from their deepest core.

Unlike the stereotypical “regulation hottie” or sorority girl, they’re unafraid of showing their vulnerability.  Perhaps she, like you, was not always liked and adored, yet she found her way by embracing who she was.

Hipsters, goths, and emos, ravers, and women from other subcultures have mastered this form of beauty.  They may beautify themselves for social validation or sexual attention, but only if it doesn’t compromise who they are.  Beauty to them is art.

Try as you might, you can’t rate a woman like this on a scale of one to ten.  Her looks are fluid with who she is inside, and when you see her, you see more than just a trophy.  You see all of her– good and bad.  You feel like you could love her even when she grows old.  Objectifying her just wouldn’t seem fair.

I am attracted to these women because I see something in them that matches myself.  Perhaps the attributes she shares with me are actually flaws.  Unlike gaining validation or gratification, men gain compassion from these unique, feminine women.

Dating tip for men: Unlike other women, these women appreciate your appreciation.  You can give her a direct compliment about her appearance without the risk that she will  use your kind words as a weapon against you.

These women are emotionally gratifying to me.  And so by dating a woman like this, you run the risk of limerence and putting her on a pedestal.

Is sex with these women good?  Often, yes.  But take caution.  You can’t love a woman who complements you if you don’t love yourself.  If you see things in her that match parts about yourself that you don’t like, you won’t be turned on by her.  You may not be aware of these attribute, but you dick will know.

Dating tip for men: Your dick, the root of your sexual subconscious, will only get hard for a woman if he knows he is going enter a safe place.

Though most guys say they want a Victoria’s Secret model, they often end up going for women like this.  The good people of did a study where they discovered that men are less likely to message women who are rated high across the board.  Instead, they message women who some men find attractive, but others do not.

Perhaps men are intimidated by women who too many men find attractive.  The competition is too much for the apparent scarcity of “regulation hot” women.

Dating tip for men:  Look for these women online, or in public places that you yourself enjoy attending.

Do you like live music?  Do you like poetry readings?  Perhaps there won’t be as many “regulation hotties” at events like these are there are at exclusive nightclubs.  But these women don’t go out to be seen, or to attract attention and validation.  They flock to

Dating tip for men:  What are you passionate about?  Don’t just go out to “sarge” or “pick up chicks.”  Go out to enjoy yourself.

Dating tip for men:  Love yourself, and women will love you.

There aren’t many dating tips for men beyond that on how to attract these sorts of women, because they are all different.  These women make men feel safe to be around.  They use their own intuition to attract them, without feeling the need to use pick up lines or read a lot of dating tips for men.

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  • 4 Responses to “Dating Tips For Men: What is Real Beauty?”

    1. Nicholl January 22, 2012 at 8:30 pm #

      I certainly enjoyed reading this article. Thanks for alerting men to the beauty of those women who are not considered “hot.” They may not have alot of makeup, slutty clothes, and the like, but they do have a spirit–a lovable, God-given spirit, you just have to find it in order to appreciate it! Kudos to you writer!

    2. Sasha January 27, 2012 at 3:29 pm #

      This was a really wonderful article! very refreshing and liberating! Thank you

    3. gesster February 3, 2012 at 11:53 am #

      I don’t think these aren’t good suggestions at all.

      I’ve read that studies show that less attractive profiles (especially women) get more attention than their better looking candidates because most of the better looking women reject people much more readily. (probably because they’re used to it)

      The fact is, there are literally hundreds of women on there who, as you so delicately put, are not “regulation hottie” girls; but they ALL think they deserve Brad Pitt.

      So, no, it’s not the girls who are getting rejected… it’s the men who are.

      Do you know how many ads read “do not send me a message if you do not have abs” or “I only dig black guys,” or “only guys under 24 please”

      Women’s expectations are the problem – not mens!!!!

      • elliottg February 4, 2012 at 1:12 pm #

        I know from my own experience that not “all non-regulation hot women think they deserve Brad Pitt,” and you have no way of proving that “all” women are like this.

        It’s true that some women write things like “don’t send me a message if you don’t have abs,” but this is not the case for every single woman. There are plenty of women out there who have other criteria when selecting a man. You just need to have the confidence to go out and find them, at the risk that you might get turned down a few times along the way.

        I get the feeling from the tone of your comment that you have a pretty negative view toward dating, and that you are seeking to blame other people for it. But as flawed as people may be, you can only change yourself. Furthermore, if you continue to hold onto these beliefs, things are only getting it works for you. I encourage you to seek out a coach to help you through your limiting beliefs, and work with you to become more successful with women.

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